We all have a vision of the ideal life, but the biggest problem with ideals is often just that - their idealism. Idealism has come to connote naivete, pollyanna tendencies, unrealistic expectations. To say someone is an idealist has traces of negativity and criticism, but also a touch of envy because we think, "Why can't I have ideals too? Are ideals really that unrealistic?"
I used to think so, but then Il Divino introduced me to his concept of "attainable ideals." We all have dreams, goals, and a vision of our perfect life, and what having attainable ideals does is to just clarify those in a way that you can actually achieve them and live that ideal life. This means, finding ideals that will still require some solid work, a good bit of stretching, consistent growth, and plenty of support, but which are still possible if you're dedicated to attaining them and they're not completely out there.
Ultimately, these ideals can be divded three categories: "personal," "professional" and "both." The ideals that overlap are the most important, but its up to you to decide if they should be worked on first or later because they can also be the most complex. These are also the ones which require the most hard work, perseverance and attention.
In five steps, here's how to do it:
1. Categorize. Divide all your plans among "personal," "professional" or "both" categories. Note which ones fall into "both" - these are key.
2. Simplify. Our dreams and plans are definitely ranked inside our heads. Some are crucial, some would be really great to have, some would be okay, and some are fun but a little unnecessary. By picking out the ones that are really key to living our ideals, we can not only focus our intentions but maybe even realize that we don't actually need a whole lot. But what is left on the list should make you feel incredible and excited. The ones that are in the "both" category are usually automatically included, but if you feel they shouldn't be then that's probably a sign they need a little more thought.
3. Create. No matter what, all of these attainable ideals need action plans. This includes ways to practice that ideal in the here and now, ways to bring your current situation closer to the ideal, and what specifically to do you when you fall off the wagon. Finding supporters are also a key part of method, especially if you're working on something that involves another specific person.
4. Live. No matter how long it might take you to attain these ideals - and we're probably talking years here - there are little ways to live your ideals now. Living them now allows you to prove to yourself not only that you are dedicated to attaining these ideals, but also that they are, in fact, attainable because they only take tiny, daily steps.
5. Relax. You will fall off the wagon, guaranteed. The fact that these are all ideals means that you need to really work and grow and maybe even change to attain them. It won't be easy, and can't be achieved in a short period of time, but it is still possible. Beating yourself up about it isn't any way to reach them either, so just relax if it all goes pear-shaped at times because you can always just start again from where you left off.
This is just the first post of many to come on attainable ideals, and my own personal ideals. But I hope you'll add yours in, as well - if you blog it or want to write a long one instead of a quick comment, just let me know and I'll link to it as a meme!